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When it comes to romantic relationships – whether they are well established or just beginning – we are (rightly) conditioned to heed and them all of the warning signs about a person commonly referred to as “red flags” to be observed.
We’re not going to go into why this matters and what can happen if you ignore warning signs, but there are reasons why the topic comes up so often in the context of romantic relationships. And while you should definitely continue to watch out for red flags, it’s also important to be on the lookout for the positive traits of a current or potential partner.
This doesn’t mean ignoring or justifying bad behavior based on some seemingly good qualities, but it does mean appreciating the best of what they bring with them and determining whether they meet your basic relationship needs (i.e., things like feeling like you’re seen to be attractive). , and sure).
In an article for Well + Good, Natalie Arroyo Camacho spoke to a relationship expert and therapist to learn more about green flags for relationships – including some examples. Here are a few to note.
You are familiar with yourself – and you feel good
This usually means that a person knows what they need in a romantic relationship and is more willing to be open and honest in conversations with you and other people.
Corresponding Relationship Expert Laurel House, is an indicator of whether someone is able to take care of themselves, such as exercising or eating healthy – behaviors show that the person is present.
If you say “no,” they respect and honor it
“It’s a big deal,” licensed marriage and family therapist Jacqueline Mendez, said good + good. “Your ‘no’ is no – no explanation required, no further negotiations.”
The focus is not on your physical relationship
Of course, the physical side of a romantic relationship matters, but if it is someone’s main (or only) interest and focus it would fall within red flag territory. However, Mendez says that if they show that they are authentically “curious about you and not just what they can make of it”, that is definitely a green flag.