That post-vax slutty summer happens all around us, but some participants are not really post-vax. The vaccine has been free and widely available for months, but around half the population is still not vaccinated against COVID-19. Some of these unvaccinated people are still interested in dating, and if you are part of that we have some tips on how to do it ethically.
(Of course we recommend getting vaccinated, but you know that by now.)
Know that vaccination status will be a deal breaker for some
Last month, the dating app Bumble released its latest research on the trends of the COVID era among surveyed users. About 30% of respondents in America say they would not date or have sex with someone who wasn’t vaccinated. A YouGov poll conducted in the UK found that 28% of Daters surveyed there thought the same.
This significantly limits your pool of options.
You may think you should just try to get a match into dating you, regardless of their position on your vaccine status. First of all, no means no. Second, the Bumble research team also found that 55% of global users said they now feel less willing to compromise on what they want and need in a potential relationship. So the 30% of people who don’t want to date a vaccinated person are more likely to stick with their guns than ever before.
“I’m vaccinated and no, I won’t date anyone who isn’t vaccinated,” said a 29-year-old woman named Darien, who is in New York City. Since the world opened up again, she’s had about eight first dates, she said, “and those were some of the worst dates” she’s ever had. She attributes this to all the good dating prospects of “being trapped in quarantine” and everyone else being rusty. Going on the scene unvaccinated adds a problem to the already long list of problems dates face out there.
Everyone has deal breakers. Some people in apps may not match you because you have the same name as one of their exes or parents. Some people may not date you because of your job title, hair color, temperament, hobbies, or who knows what else. Vaccination status as a deal breaker isn’t all that new, but it’s a certainty you just need to prepare for.
If you are still unvaccinated after months of free access, it’s not hard to tell that you are probably actively rejecting the vaccine. The people who your lack of jab is a deal breaker to are probably not your buddies anyway.
Be honest about your vaccination status with a possible date
With so many respondents saying they wouldn’t date unvaccinated people, it’s clear that this is a position that a lot of people take seriously. The only ethical option is for you to be completely honest about your ungevaxxt status, although this may sound a bit strange depending on your aggressiveness.
Fortunately, dating apps are making disclosure easier after some of them, from Tinder to OKCupid to Hinge, worked with the White House to promote vaccines among young people this spring. For example, the Bumble and Tinder apps allow users to add a badge to their profiles as soon as they receive the jab. Bumble even has a “COVID Preferences Center” where swipers can indicate their preferences for real or virtual dating, social distancing and the vaccine status of potential partners, and offers free credits for premium features like Spotlight and SuperSwipe for badge users.
“For those trying to date without being vaccinated, you may want to discuss this beforehand. With most things that affect others, the best thing to do is to be honest and allow people to choose whether or not to go out with you, ”Darien said, despite pointing out that they are their own Does not reveal vaccination status in their dating profiles.
“I think it’s pretty easy to tell if they are vaccinated or not from their profile so I think there is no need to add that badge to a dating profile, but it’s cool if you do “, she said. “If I were unsure, I would just ask in the conversation before the meeting.”
For anyone reading this and having been vaccinated, the message is clear: if it matters to you, ask someone if you are unsure about their vaccination status or personal safety protocols. Tinder chats and first dates are all about communication, right? They ask what they do for a living, where they grew up and what they like to eat. Ask about it too.
You might find some like-minded people
There are plenty of hits that pop up on Twitter when you search for “unvaccinated dating”. The unvaccinated condemn the badges on the apps and publicly want an “unvaccinated dating app”.
We even found one such app, Unjected, which advertises itself as “a platform for like-minded people who support medical autonomy”. It has more than 23,000 Instagram followers and a line of merchandise so there is definitely a community full of people who think like you.
(We still recommend getting vaccinated if we haven’t clarified this yet.)